I was talking to Naeemah today. Not myself, there’s another one out there,
and yes, we do know each other. Our
names weren’t the only thing we had in common.
We were talking about singleness and dating.
I’ve been getting like a shit ton of friend requests to my
personal Facebook page, like 2-4 requests a day for the last 3 or 4
months. One day I counted 17 requests. I accept based on the age: not too young, I’m
not a cougar or a mom of any kind and not too old but I appreciate a
distinguished gentleman and whether or not I think they’re cute. Most of the
requests are from guys that live in my home country St. Kitts. Since I haven’t
lived there for 15 years and move in and out like I owe money when I do visit,
I didn’t think they were intentionally for me.
The other Naeemah lives at home and is very pretty with the most
captivating smile, another thing we have in common. I thought the friend requests were for
her. So I had to ask her what
happened. I thought maybe she told the
world that she was single and looking and sent all the men crazy trying to
slide into her DM’s. Men aren’t the most
detailed creatures I know so a Naeemah H mistake would be so easy to make. And voila I have 200 more FB friends for no
particularly good reason. But why?
Cause dating and relationships are in a suck phase right
now. Let’s be real, it’s been in a suck
phase for a while. After she told me
that the dating scene was challenging back home I had to share that it was no
different here in the US, at least not in my neck of the woods, Hotlanta, GA. I see entirely too many pretty, intelligent, self-actualized
females at home and abroad up and down my timeline barely restraining their combustible
frustrations with dating. We want to be
ok with our singleness, we are ok with our singleness, we’re awesome but
goddamit why are we still single? Why do
guys in and out of relationships add you on social media to stalk you, like 17
of your profile pictures in a half hour, and never say anything? What the entire fuck is going on? What
happened to us?
I’m equally frustrated and amused at this current state of
affairs and seek to study it, to understand and to seek solidarity from my
fellow sisters about it. I needed an
outlet. That’s why I write.
